I heard an interesting statistic this morning. Couples who have daughters have a higher percentage of divorce rates than those with sons. I have three daughters which, according to this statistic, makes me 10% more likely to get divorced. This is on top of the already high 50% divorce rate. Whilst I’m not looking to learn about a divorce lawyer… yet, it is interesting to know this type of information and how it came about.
Now, before you go spouting off at the mouth the “obvious” reasons (drama, hormones, all those women, etc.) that this rate exists, listen to the reasoning they gave:
- 75% of the time, it’s the woman who initiates the divorce
- Mothers of daughters are more likely to leave a bad marriage so that the daughters do not grow up thinking that is the way a marriage should be
- Daughters offer more companionship than sons (don’t shoot the messenger) and thus, mothers tend to feel they need a husband less. There is, of course, the risk that you will lose custody over your children when you divorce their father, which counteracts this point, but if you use someone like these Divorce Lawyers London way they will make sure the chances of this are thoroughly minimized.
- Men/Fathers have more “sticktoitiveness” when it comes to sons than daughters
Okay… now that I’m finished, I’d LOVE to hear your thoughts on this. Remember… I did not write the report, I just repeated the report 😉
Kristen
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As the father of two daughters (no sons) I’m having a bit of a hard time not being insulted by the idea that fathers have more “sticktoitvness” if they have sons.
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I don’t blame you.. it’s a pretty wide cast net for them to say that. We could get into the socio-demographics behind the claim but if they were to have said the same about mothers and sons, I would have been incited as well. I know it galls me when I read the claims that mothers of daughters leave marriages because they’re jealous of the relationship between daughters and fathers. Really??
Oh Boy! Ok so first I’ll speak in generalities… (Don’t shoot the messenger!) Men typically aren’t good at expressing themselves, especially when it comes to emotions… So, in a house full of women, I could see where a man might end up feeling like he ‘got run out’ or for whatever reason, I could understand how that might play into a divorce. I can’t condone it, but I can see it.
However, here’s one I wish I could shout from the mountain tops, yet I know I’d get burned at the stake… some women see their daughters as competition. I married an incredibly jealous woman, and that was an issue from the day my daughter was born. Any amount of attention I showed my daughter was not well received by the wife. Now, I am not at all saying this is ‘normal’ or ‘common’ at least to the extent that it was in my marriage, but I do see it in other Mother/Daughter relationships to a less catastrophic degree. Dad/Sons do it too, too competitive… Even now after many years of divorce, my daughter can’t talk about Daddy/Daughter things we do without being skewered. At least now that I’m divorced, I can do those things. If I had stayed married, not a chance.
In any case, no matter what the man or woman or kids do, if everyone isn’t on board with marriage and family, it isn’t going to work. I think too often people want to play the blame game. Lawyers are the only people who ‘win’ a divorce, and the kids always ‘lose’ in a divorce, even a civil one.
@ThreeFiveZero Well add to that our instant gratification nation and it’s a perfect set up for divorce.
@4Hensandrooster And just in case there’s any confusion, divorce doesn’t solve anything. It takes all the marital stress off the shoulders of the parents, and plops it squarely onto the kids. Forever. I wish people could see that…